Having musical adult children that play in town gets me out at night much more than I would, because I hate to miss them playing. Sometimes it is the comings and goings to the event that give me sweet moments too. Last week it was raining when I left and walked to my car in the beautiful town of Doylestown. Being fall there were brown leaves stuck to the pavement. The stores were closed but had lights that reflected in the puddles. It was so pretty. I really "saw" it all. Sometimes when we are rushing here and there we do not SEE.
Tonight I left and it is chillier. The window in the stationary card store was lined with festive cobwebs and orange lights. Leaves were dry and rustling on the sidewalk in the wind. As I drove down the street lined with houses, a man was actually raking leaves into a pile along the road. It was close to midnight. I was so glad I saw him. Not that I was about to run over him kind of seeing; but just a noticing.
At the stop sign I looked at the corner house that our friends Kathy and son Rob rented over a decade ago. Upstairs in the back I saw a light go out. The house was now dark. I was glad to witness the light being there, and then not. I hoped the mystery person would sleep well.
As I drove to the country house I noticed the half a mile of tall cornfield on my right. There were three small deer stepping into it to hide. I was glad to see them. The cornfield was spooky. The sky had scattered clouds and some stars, no moon. I thought it would be neat to take a picture of the spooky cornfield. Up ahead was a neighborhood street opposite, so I pulled in because we have a camera with us now all the time to play with, our phones. My headlights on, I left the door open and car running and ran across the street to take a picture. The flash ruined it. I sprinted back to my car and got my glasses and saw where to turn off the flash and then ran back to take a picture. It was spooky, the husks were making sounds in the wind. I ran back to my car and locked it and continued home.
I do not look at the picture too closely. If there were pairs of eyes peering out at me I do not want to know.... But I really like the picture. I was fully present when I took it. Brave. I had to run back that second time for sure! I was having a few crazy minutes of fun by myself. Noticing. Living.
You know there is so much in the world to fuss about. We can fuss over people having healthcare that we help pay for and we are mad about it and then we can fuss over Ebola and if Ebola comes we sure will want everyone to have health care. Do you see the silliness? What a waste of living, to fuss like that. The whole world of news exists to serve up things to fuss over. Right now, how are you living? This beautiful fall, are you alive in it? Are you appreciating the comfort of your own home? On your simple street? In your own town? Are you making it kinder, more friendly? Are you seeing it all? Right now? Do not wait to lose something to value it. See where you are. "Waste not, want not" applies to moments in days, too.
Melissa Regan is a Storyteller who is honored to celebrate the life you live and the people you love. She partners with individuals at significant times of life and loss, supporting them by creating and presenting their loved ones story at a service or by planning an inspirational day of rememberance and reflection.
Melissa spent time as a critical care nurse before she became specialized in the field of organ donation. Melissa was well known for the care she gave grieving families and did this delicate work for 14 years. Her experience lead to her teaching heartfelt methods of communication to donation specialists around the world.
Inspired by everything these families taught her, she expanded her perspective on life by studying Positive Psychology, earning both a CiPP and a CAPP. She received training as an end of life doula through INELDA. She has a special grace all her own when it comes to supporting us at times of change and loss.
Melissa is a wife, mother, lifelong learner, and a lover of the wonder you can find in a single moment. She brings this wonder to her public speaking, connecting us to the grandness and depth always present in the day to day.
“Take a day to be thoughtful... the rest of your life is here.”